Anyone who has tried dating online has probably noticed what I have with regard to the photos people post. There are several different types of online daters and, having a good deal of experience in this area, I feel qualified to offer some of my observations on this subject:
"Until you meet someone face to face..."Getting to Know Each Other on the Phone
Until you meet someone face to face, it doesn't matter how many emails you have sent each other or how long you have spent on the phone together. Look baby, I understand that you are a cunning linguist, but let's meet first and see if there are any sparks before we spend hours mooning on the phone or sending each other spicy emails. You will know within minutes of meeting your date whether they are actually a person you could consider building a relationship with.
"A warm greeting with a gentle, friendly hug helps to put me at ease."
First Meeting
I get embarrassed when I think that people nearby know we are strangers meeting for the first time on an internet date. I like to pretend that we are old friends. A warm greeting with a gentle, friendly hug helps to put me at ease. This is a great time to give your date some physical cues to let them know if you are or aren't attracted to them. Gentlemen should open doors and otherwise behave like gentlemen. Ladies, should behave like ladies and gently let their escorts know if they are interested. If, shortly after meeting, you are sure you are just not interested in your date, politely make some kind of excuse to cut the date short and then let the person know later online that you won't be interested in any further dates.
"I am not interested in seeing photos of your dogs, cats or children."
I don't mean to insult anyone, but ladies please, I am not interested in seeing any photos of your dogs, cats or children. I am not interested in dating your pets or children. If you are looking for a guy who is willing to put up with your toy-dog laying between the two of you at night, you should just stay off dating sites altogether...just be happy with the dog; it is probably the only creature on the planet who can put up with your idea of what love should really be, anyway.
Putting pictures of your kids on internet dating sites is not only a little sick in my opinion, it could be dangerous. Do you know how many perverted, sexual deviants frequent internet dating sites? If you put up a photo of yourself and your daughter, how do you know whether your prospective soul-mate is really looking at you or at your under-age daughter? Do you ever see men doing this kind of thing on their profiles? If so, please, I would love it if you would let me know about it below.
"What is this thing about only posting photos of yourself from the shoulders up?"Profile Pics
I am interested in your pretty face and gorgeous eyes, but I, like most men, also would like the see the rest of the package before I ask you out. A full-body shot is a necessity for any daring lady who adventures forth in the online dating scene. Look...this is a dating site. The object is to find someone you are attracted to. What is this thing about only posting photos of yourself from the shoulders up? Do you really think we should all wait until after we have talked on the phone with you for hours; spent days emailing you back and forth; and bought you lunch, to find out what you look like from the shoulders down? Can you feel attracted to someone you have only seen from the shoulders up? Also, why the photo from the ceiling angle? Is this supposed to give me some information that I didn't get from your other head-shot?
The Right Way
I have a few head-shots; two full-body shots (one from the front and one from the rear) and a photo of myself looking my worst. Why not save yourself and everyone else in the internet dating world some time by posting some decent and revealing photos of yourself so that your prospective lover can make some informed decisions before spending hours emailing you and getting to know you on the phone?
Am I being shallow or am I giving constructive advise? I would like to hear your thoughts below. Listen, we all want to be loved for who we are. But, even the most romantic and intellectual of us wants to be with someone we are attracted to. Looks aren't everything when you are looking for a partner, but it is important. Photos are the vehicle that will you help us in our online dating adventures. Post as many photos of yourself as you can; post the goofy ones right along with the glamorous ones. Just try to reveal yourself as much as possible because, in my opinion, that is the only way you will find someone who loves you for who you really are.
I haven't spent much time studying men's profiles so I invite any ladies who read this to comment on common mistakes that men might make when creating dating profiles.
David Settino Scott
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